Looking for slightly long distance dating to start
Hi,
I just moved back east from the west coast, where I lived for a few years for work love. Before moving out west, I lived in New York for 8 years and loved it. I missed it quite a bit when I left and never really acclimated to the California.style. When I decided to end my LTR, I didnt see any reason to stay so far from my home coast. I wanted to go directly back to NYC, but found a job opportunity in Boston first so decided to move to that area for now. However, Im treating this like a stepping stone in my eventual move back to New York.
The Boston area is fine, but nothing really compares to New York.
About me: Im a bit of a rare bird. I dont mean this with a bit of arrogance, but I am in a weird situation. Most of my friends/people in my age group, are married, have or divorced/remarried, with.Thats all Ive ever really wanted: A great relationship/marriage and family of my own. I was engaged to my ex, but it never went anywhere, and I guess we stayed with one another longer than we should have. (close to a decade). In retrospect, the relationship was over about 2-3 years before I walked out the door.
So, here I am, age lbs, 55", with fair skin, light hair blue eyes. Im , fit (jogger), and I still would like to believe that there is a possibility that I could find the right person, and have that family Ive always wanted.
That said, being 40, Im no stranger to relationships, and all that can go wrong when youre in one. So Im not going to pretend that I dont have some baggage. Most people in my age group have acquired some by this point. My ex cheated on me, lied to me and was a workaholic. (Thats the almost-polite, abbreviated version I can offer). He wasnt a terrible guy, but didnt have any idea what he wanted (even going into his early 40s), was unstable, inconsistent and quite immature.
Im not looking for a unicorn here. Just an honest, transparent, decent looking man, who is physiy fit, intelligent, educated, stable, sane, single, witty, kind, not a narcissist, emotionally mature, who has similar interests and who would ultimately like to meet the right woman to build a life and family with. I dont care if hes divorced, as long as the divorce was more than 3 years ago. Dont mind if he already has from a previous relationship , as long as hes interested in having more , with the right person.
Im looking for something that would be light/easy to start. New York is only 4 hours away by car, and 1 hour by plane. Im Not looking for a secret affair with a married guy. I just want to start off taking things slow, as I somewhat-recently got out of a LTR. Im not ready to jump right back into another full blown relationship, but I also dont want to waste any more time not dating at all.
As I plan to move back to NYC sometime within the next 2-3 years, Id like to date someone who is already in the city (and plans to stay there).
My interests include: , opera, ballet, philharmonic, off broadway, dining out, trying new foods, traveling, dancing, horseback riding (since I was a ), swimming, the beach, sailing, occasional weekends in the hamptons are fun watching the polo matches, horse shows, etc Cape Cod is alright a bit more low key but still beautiful. I love to read books. I also read a few periodicals- The Sun, The Paris Review, The New Yorker, Harpers
I love coffee/ tea (caffeine), but I do not drink much alcohol and I dont smoke or do.I will occasionally have a cocktail or some wine, but Im a lightweight. I would like someone who enjoys conversation, socializing, mixed with some quiet, intimate time. I would say married woman wants hot sex dating advice women that Im more of a O when it comes to style. I prefer dresses/skirts when I go out. But I also love my skinny jeans and sweaters. I like men who dress well. I dont mean dressed up all the time, just a man who care a bit about how he is put together before he walks out the door.
I think the most important things are honesty, respect and the ability to communicate. After my last relationship, trust became a bit of an issue for me. I do not expect a man in my age group to have zero baggage either. We all have some.
Prefer someone at least 42+, but to be realistic, not over 52. Also, to be clear, "separated" is not the same as "divorced". Im not interested in becoming entangled with a man who is still knee deep in another relationship. MUST BE SINGLE.
I have a car, so its not an issue for me to drive to the city. However, Id like to meet someone who also either has a car and doesnt mind making the occasional trip my way, or is willing to hop a quick flight to get here sometimes. Im willing to do the same.
If interested, please reply with some info about who you are, what your background is, what you are interested in/looking for, and a brief but clear physical description. You dont have to send me a pic, but can if you want. I dont toss out photos of myself to strangers online, so if you arent comfortable doing that, thats fine (and normal).
Thanks.